Saturday, March 15, 2014
As I am in the full blown panic of setting up a birthday party for my soon-to-be 8 year-old my oldest goes out and gets the mail. In the mail is a packet that I requested from the county Foster & Adoptive Services office. She is super excited. I keep trying to tell her that we are "thinking and researching" and that does not guarantee that we will be doing anything. I fear her excitement. I don't know where this is going to lead and she instantly assumes this means things will go as she has planned. I wish she had not seen that packet. How do we teach our children that "maybe" does not always translate to "yes but later". I have said maybe to several things over their life time and every time it turns out to be "no" as the final answer our children are devastated. I am left not wanting them to know anything until it is a yes answer but then I feel like that is sending them a wrong message as well. Then they only ever hear yes. But this is not ice cream or a movie night... this is a growth to the family -- a step that MUST not be taken lightly. This is something that must be prayed about -- A LOT! Sometimes I think that I need to be the only one who goes to the mailbox. No matter what happens with adoption I am still left wondering how much I should let my kids know so that their hopes are not always dashed and how much they need to learn that the answer is not always 'yes'.